Incompatibility can be
explained as a state of not being able to work with another person or thing
because of basic differences. This can be case with devices, software,
machinery and people. When it happens with things, it will render them useless;
however when it happens among people, it will result in unfavorable situations
and the complications that arise as a result of it.
In this post, we will
discuss how incompatibility between people affects their work and personal lives.
To understand this term we first need to understand that this doesn’t happen
overnight. It consists of multiple layers formed over a period of time. The
degree of dissent between people is a direct outcome of how long it has not been
acknowledged, addressed and thereby ignored.
People tend to perceive the
same situation differently. This ability of people is the primary reason for
the conflict to begin. No two people are a one hundred percent match for each
other. However between two people, if you consider that the other person already
has an 80% of what you need, and lacks a 20% of what you want. How far you are willing
to work with the other person and vice versa makes the difference.
It is a no brainer that
it is the most common and prevalent issue today in people’s personal and professional
lives. The reasons for the discords between people are far from being simple,
it could be having different priorities, ego, a general lack of appreciation of
efforts, time and sacrifices of the other person. Etc. etc.
Hence we will try to
understand the issue and learn how to diffuse it. Identifying the problem early
is the key here. The sooner it is identified, the easier it is to resolve it. A
few pointers will help resolving situations like this. Needless to say, open
and a free communication are fundamental to approach towards a resolution.
Express your willingness
to work through the situation, explaining the benefits of the resolution.
Be strong with what is unacceptable,
yet be polite in communicating it.
Determining whether it is
a skill issue or a will issue. Keeping the resolution as a process oriented exercise
than a result oriented one.
Keeping calm throughout
the conversation, otherwise the mind shuts off even the basic functions, like
hearing the other person when both are talking over each other.
It is important that both
parties agree on an action plan. Documentation of the same helps keep actions
defined in a more formal scenario. The process is simple, but the implementation
of the same by both parties is critical. It requires to be followed up from
time to time.
This approach will definitely
help work on relationships that people would generally give up making excuses
of incompatibility. It would transform the quality of a relationship for good.
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