‘Nirmama’ is a
Sanskrit word which literally means ‘nothing is mine’. People who come across this word for the
first time find it difficult to understand the exact meaning of it. Nirmama
doesn’t mean that you own nothing, instead it means that nothing owns you. It
is a balanced state of mind.
This context is complex
in nature. It is a higher form of discipline and comes with a lot of practice.
However, once we start practicing it over a period of time, we will see that it
will have a magical transformation, in the way we perceive things. It is relevant
to the different aspects of professional and personal life. The result,
however, varies from person to person depending on the ability and priorities
of the person in question.
People are no strangers
to challenges in life and the worries that follow. It could be a challenging
situation at the workplace or a difficult phase in a relationship. It may be
nerve wrecking in severe cases. In some situations, we could be fighting a
losing battle and continue doing so without any point.
When we train ourselves
on the concept of Nirmama, it does nothing to the situation itself, instead it changes our perception of the outcome and provides clarity in our decision
making. A few tips to change the perception and facilitate better judgement, in
important situations are as follows:
• Getting our actual priorities right: The world’s hard enough
as it is, we do not want to make it further harder on ourselves, by pursuing pointless
misplaced priorities in life.
• Getting the hang of ourselves: Not pursuing a blind love for
a person or a thing, beyond a reasonable limit that starts messing up our own
life.
• This too shall pass: Not getting overwhelmed or worked up
with situations, outcomes of situations. Not getting or taking things
personally.
• It’s just a matter of time: Do good and be good to yourselves first; bad surroundings and bad company will always result in negative outcomes for you.
The situations may vary
with different people, but when this approach is followed, it is always bound
to give a positive outcome. Furthermore, it leaves you in a happier state of
mind as you have done your part right. These principles when applied will
result in a paradigm shift to our perception of life itself.
Happy Learning! and Happy Sharing!