Job satisfaction…In People/Team Management – Managing work life balance.

 

A job by definition is a paid position that requires completion of a set of tasks. This is fairly understood in clarity by almost all. However, there can be complications regarding how we intend to do a job, as opposed to how we are expected to do it.

When we do our job and are happy about it, it results in job satisfaction. In most cases, job satisfaction is hardly dependent on doing the job itself. The factors are different for different people. It may be the work atmosphere, it may be dependent on the people who we work with, respect and value that we get in the society associated with the job we do, work life balance etc.

Pay is also an important factor but rarely is the sole reason. If pay is the only reason, people are smart enough to move to another job, or find an alternative source of income, take up a second job etc. In most cases, the lack of job satisfaction and the reasons for it tend to be emotional in nature.

People sometimes perceive the job that they are doing as the hardest job in the world. It is evident by the way they explain the complexity of their job to others, in conversations among their friends or relatives. They don’t miss an opportunity to complain about their job and feel it is so unfair to them. The resultant stress and pain can only get excruciating as they are doing something that they hate. They fail to understand it was their choice and still continues to be too. A few pointers that can help relieve the stress and result in job satisfaction are as follows:

•      Sense of purpose: Identifying the job with sense of purpose and achievement that directly results in a secure and a comfortable life for self and family. A condition that so many people are deprived of.

•      Understanding the importance of the job: Don’t take it too lightly that you will go jobless in an hour, similarly don’t take it so seriously that you will end up having prolonged mental stress. A job is an important aspect of life, but there are other things too that are far more important.

•      Making the work atmosphere happy for self and others: In fact, when we make the work environment happy for others, our work atmosphere gets happy too.

•      Being the person, whose absence is missed: Trying to be the person whose presence is appreciated and sought after is a good way of ensuring satisfaction for self.

•      Overall Personality development: Working towards improving overall personality development by taking up course to upskill or involving in engagement activities is another way of improving chances for new opportunities.

There is never a formula for job satisfaction, where values can be tweaked to get or change desired outcomes. Understanding what really motivates you is the key. Once it is identified, constantly working on it will help ensure satisfaction at work. Personal life is equally important, a balance between work life and personal life is essential as both complement each other.

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Understanding incompatibility…In People/Team Management – consequences, reasons and resolutions.

 

Incompatibility can be explained as a state of not being able to work with another person or thing because of basic differences. This can be case with devices, software, machinery and people. When it happens with things, it will render them useless; however when it happens among people, it will result in unfavorable situations and the complications that arise as a result of it.

In this post, we will discuss how incompatibility between people affects their work and personal lives. To understand this term we first need to understand that this doesn’t happen overnight. It consists of multiple layers formed over a period of time. The degree of dissent between people is a direct outcome of how long it has not been acknowledged, addressed and thereby ignored.

People tend to perceive the same situation differently. This ability of people is the primary reason for the conflict to begin. No two people are a one hundred percent match for each other. However between two people, if you consider that the other person already has an 80% of what you need, and lacks a 20% of what you want. It is your choice whether you are willing to let go off the 80% that you have for the 20% that you want. How far you are willing to work with the other person and vice versa makes the difference.

It is a no brainer that it is the most common and prevalent issue today in people’s personal and professional lives. The reasons for the discords between people are far from being simple, it could be having different priorities, ego, a general lack of appreciation of efforts, time and sacrifices of the other person. Etc. etc.

Hence we will try to understand the issue and learn how to diffuse it. Identifying the problem early is the key here. The sooner it is identified, the easier it is to resolve it. A few pointers will help resolving situations like this. Needless to say, open and a free communication are fundamental to approach towards a resolution.

·       Express your willingness to work through the situation, explaining the benefits of the resolution.

·       Be strong with what is unacceptable, yet be polite in communicating it.

·       Determining whether it is a skill issue or a will issue. Keeping the resolution as a process oriented exercise than a result oriented one.

·       Keeping calm throughout the conversation, otherwise the mind shuts off even the basic functions, like hearing the other person when both are talking over each other.

It is important that both parties agree on an action plan. Documentation of the same helps keep actions defined in a more formal scenario. The process is simple, but the implementation of the same by both parties is critical. It requires to be followed up from time to time.

This approach will definitely help work on relationships that people would generally give up making excuses of incompatibility. It would transform the quality of a relationship for good.

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The journey from selfishness to selflessness…In People/Team Management – Principles that can transform our entire life.

 

The journey from selfishness to selflessness is not an easy one. It requires discipline, sacrifice, patience and courage. Always doing the right thing. Once we start the journey, it is bound to change the way we look and conduct things in our life.

[Many interpretations are already available on the open source. For the benefit on my readers, I am attempting to put it together here with my perspective]

This post is an attempt to understand the teachings from a great scripture Bhagavad Gita. The principles of which are so relevant even today, even after thousands of years of its inception. The summary of the eighteen chapters helps and guides us to look through our life with clarity. For those who follow the principles mentioned it serves as a guiding beacon on how to conduct life in general. Though there are countless lessons that the epic book teaches us, these are a few pointers that we can imbibe them in our day-to-day life:

•         Understand that change is the law of nature: Everything will change, including circumstances, situation, people etc. We need to be open to new things or people. The only thing we lack is the right amount of motivation and inspiration for the unique circumstances that we face. Once we go through the process it becomes our experience.

•         Stay Calm: Staying calm gives your mind a break that it needs to get out of a situation and find the best way to react. Our entire knowledge is useless if we panic. Our anger is the worst enemy that we can face. Being calm helps our mind to organize our thoughts, apply our knowledge, evaluate the consequences and find a solution for the problem at hand.

•         Be fearless: Fear is a primordial emotion present in every living being. Nevertheless, it is important that we step up for what is right, stand up for the weak. Facing our fear fills us up with a great sense of achievement and reinforces our capabilities.

•         Accept that things are not permanent: Don’t get overly attached to materialistic things. They will eventually get destroyed or change. Clinging to things is the root cause of all miseries.

•         Don’t be selfish: Let go off I, Me and Myself attitude. By working always for the benefit of others would cause the entire world to help us in our times of need.

•         Don’t think about the consequences too often: Shifting focus on doing a prescribed task is of utmost importance than worrying about the outcome itself. 

•         You came empty handed and you’ll leave empty handed: This is the universal law. The good name that we earn doing good deeds for others, during our lifetime, is the only thing that lives beyond us.

•         Man is made up of his belief: If we think we cannot accomplish a task, we have lost the battle before it has even started. Do not doubt yourself, put genuine efforts though.

These principles, when imbibed as a way of life, are sure to transform the very quality of our life for good. They never fail to guide us through the right path whenever we face lack of clarity in a situation.

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Expectations pros and cons…In People/Team Management – Doing it right the first time.

 Expectation is a strong sense of belief that something will happen for sure. It is bound to happen between two people associated for a while. It is a formal occurrence at work and tends to be a more casual thing in personal relationships. Irrespective of whether it is at work or in personal life, it can at times catch us off guard. It can at times be difficult to manage.

Expectations of a person towards us don’t happen overnight. It is built overtime. The reason expectations of a person towards us grow is primarily because of our own self. The factors that depend are our attitude, capability, experience, how important the other person is to us etc.

Expectations are sort of an undiscussed pact between two people and come with their own pros and cons. Pros indicate trust, confidence and hope the other people have in us.

The entire problem is when expectations are not managed properly and start showing the cons. It could be various reasons that we let people build expectations on us. A few examples are that we let people depend on us more than required, at times we allow people to take us for granted, and the way we act differently with two different people in the same situation. We may act so because of some exceptions, but it is not perceived so by the other person. The other person will mostly form the opinion that we are acting indifferently.

A few pointers to manage the expectations in a right way from the beginning are as follows:

• Open and honest conversations: This is the most important aspect needed that we be open and honest in our conversations with people. It is always better to undersell and deliver better than to oversell and fail.

• Explaining the exceptions clearly: Whenever we go out of the way and do something for someone, it should be explained clearly as it is a one-time event. Similarly, clarity in communicating what we can do, we will do, and what we will never do is critical.

• Acting differently with two different people for the same situation: First of all, we need to question ourselves why are we choosing to do it? Is there a good reason for doing so? If the reason is a good enough one, communicate it clearly to the person in question.

In worst case scenarios, expectations gone wrong will create havoc and destroy relationships if not acted in time. Managing expectations is a delicate process and will need care. Similarly, when you have an expectation from the other person too the above-mentioned points must be kept in mind. Knowledge and experience of these aspects will help us avoid facing unreasonable expectations for ourselves and have reasonable expectations with others. Positive expectations create thriving and long-lasting relationships. I wish my readers more such rewarding experiences in their life.

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Mind matters…In People/Team Management – Determination is the key.

 

People are unique in many ways. We possess strengths, the things we are good at. We acquire these strengths by virtue of education, practice, experience etc. Similarly, we have a few areas of development as well. These are things that we can much better at than the present level. These areas of development limit us and restrict us in many ways than we may imagine. It results in missed opportunities, a better chance at life, misunderstandings etc.

The very fact that we have identified these shortcomings in us is because we still have to work towards them. It could be anything like overcoming an obstacle, getting rid of a habit or how we deal with people in general. We either know these ourselves or we receive feedback from people who are our well-wishers.

It is quite possible that we may receive this feedback from multiple people on more than one occasion. This is a clear indication that we either start working on it immediately or keep facing the same problem over and over again. These identified things or habits may vary from person to person. It could be anything like lying, cheating, anger management issues etc.

One thing is clear, whatever the issue is it is bound to be detrimental or even destructive to a relationship, especially in severe cases. Another thing that is even clearer is it is simply not going to disappear on its own, unless we put efforts into working towards these issues. A few pointers below will help structure our approach in working towards this:

•    Mind matters: Clarity in identifying the exact thing that we want to work on and making up our mind is the first and crucial step. Our mind is stronger than we can even fathom. Should we make up our mind and put efforts there is hardly anything that we cannot work on.

•    Goal setting: Once we have made up our mind, the next step is putting efforts towards it. This is the most difficult part because it requires perseverance, however it is not impossible though.

•    Choosing the right methodology to implement is the key: Different things work for different people. For some people constantly reminding themselves of the goal works, for others taking an oath works. We must identify what works for us and put a conscious effort towards it.

Once we work towards a specific goal within a time period, the results will be a rewarding experience. We are bound to regret waiting to have done it for so long and thank ourselves for having finally implemented it. Like they always say better late than never. I wish my readers to identify issues if any, work on them and experience a quality life.

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The power of your voice…In People/Team Management – The inner voice and inner strength.

 Communication is the key to almost all aspects of our life. It is the way we talk to people and conduct our day-to-day affairs. Our success directly depends on how effective we are at it. There is a different kind of communication, which we use to speak and connect with ourselves called our ‘Inner voice’. In this post, we will learn about our ‘Inner voice’ and ‘Inner strength’.

‘Inner voice’ is the way that we talk with ourselves, ask ourselves multiple questions while seeking a situation. ‘Inner strength’ is our untapped capability, the limits of our potential to see us out of a dangerous situation. It is bound to give good results, each time when we use it effectively.

Everyone is blessed with the above capabilities. It is just that some people know how to use it effectively and others are yet to learn to use it, when they face situations that demand them.

The situations that prompt the usage of these capabilities are not very frequent. It is usually when we are stuck at a crossroads or in difficult and dangerous situations in life. A few examples of it are when we have to take important decisions, course correction situations in life, when we are in critical situations.

The fundamental principles that guide us in usage of these capabilities don’t change irrespective of the situations we face. It is how we are as a person that determines the usage and outcome of these capabilities.

When we are facing a difficult situation, we don’t arrive at a solution directly. It happens after a series of different phases. The different phases can vary from being disinterested, anger, frustration, feeling victimized etc. It is situation specific. These situations tend to be highly emotional. A few pointers below will help get a clarity to cross through the rough patches:

•         Figure out what you want and learn how to ask for it: We need to practice this when we are communicating with ourselves. It is important to not choose something just because it is the easiest way out. 

•         You’re tougher than you think you are right now: It is very critical to believing our self. Holding the fort until we find a solution is paramount. It is a shame that people lack this ability and in severe cases end their life. 

•         Not doing anything wrong is what will keep you afloat: Not succumbing to external pressure during the different phases of facing the situation is critical. Any wrong step due to any reason will only aggravate it further.

These situations from the beginning to the end will surely be difficult and test our potential to the limits. We cannot escape facing them, however, the outcome in general will be better, if we improve the ways to handle it. Our ‘Inner voice’ and ‘Inner strength’ is truly an asset that we possess in countering these difficult situations.

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Overlapping space issues…In People/Team Management – The placebo effect.

 

The human mind is a powerful thing, with determination and grit people can achieve what seems to be herculean tasks. Similarly, when the mind wavers and lacks clarity, it can end up in disastrous situations too. It is how we train our mind to perform that matters.

Speaking of mind since everyone has one of their own, and it is unique. People think and react to situations differently. Though the reaction may be similar among few; however, what prompts them to react differs from person to person. These reactions can be a result of learning, experience, habits etc.

When any two people live together or are associated together for a long time, the way they think, their way of doing things, their perception of situation etc. differs. It is even more obvious when people involved are of different sex. Initially, they may try to go out of the way and showcase their best behaviors. However, over time as they get more complacent with each other, their mind starts exploring and analyzing.

People feel the need of sometime for themselves referred to as ‘Me Time’. They feel the urge to relax and unwind. It is completely normal, in fact essential to relax too. Now how one does it or what relaxes a person completely differ from person to person; especially with people of different sex. For example, a woman might find activity like shopping relaxing and soothing; whereas a man might feel it stressful and enjoy some other activity like hanging around with his friends over a drink.

Whatever the activity, the ‘Me Time’ will only add freshness to the relationship and strengthen it. This must be understood as paramount to a healthy relationship.

The real problem is when the ‘Me Time’ of both the people overlap with each other. They fail to realize that this time they are allowing for each other ensures things between them lively forever. Some people may not understand this simple concept and hence fail to understand the need for it. The reasons could be insecurity, jealousy, possessiveness, selfishness etc. Whatever the reason may be these overlapping space issues will only strain a relationship and be detrimental to it.

Some people can indulge in these overlapping space issues knowingly, and some may do it with the lack of knowledge of it. A few pointers to deal with such situations are:

•         Open communication: This is the first basic step that needs to be followed. In many situations, it is a one stop solution that addresses the issue.

•         Me Time: Discussing the concept of ‘Me Time’ and explaining the need for it for both. Agreeing on a schedule.

•         Adhering to the schedule: Adhering to the mutually agreed schedule and respecting the other person’s ‘Me Time’ space.

•         Honesty Factor: People usually maintain secrecy and indulge in their own space. It defeats the very purpose. It harbors suspicion and thereby leads to lying. Lies compound lies. If you don’t lie you don’t have to remember a thing.

The basics of any relationship need to be love, trust and respect for each other. Any element lacking will get the entire thing done. 

Sometimes we need to train our mind in order to accept certain things and improvise accordingly. We need to get the mind thinking that this accepting and respecting of each other’s space is not because we want to escape from each other. It is only for refreshing the lovely relationship from time to time. In general terms it is called the Placebo effect.

A placebo is anything that seems to be a "real" medical treatment -- but isn't. It could be a pill, a shot, or some other type of "fake" treatment. One of its uses is to get the mind thinking that it is getting the real medicine and strengthen it to recover. Placebos can have an effect on conditions such as depression, pain, sleep disorders etc. (Information sourced from internet}

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