The human mind is a
powerful thing, with determination and grit people can achieve what seems to be
herculean tasks. Similarly, when the mind wavers and lacks clarity, it can end
up in disastrous situations too. It is how we train our mind to perform that
Speaking of mind since
everyone has one of their own, and it is unique. People think and react to
situations differently. Though the reaction may be similar among few; however,
what prompts them to react differs from person to person. These reactions can
be a result of learning, experience, habits etc.
When any two people live
together or are associated together for a long time, the way they think, their
way of doing things, their perception of situation etc. differs. It is even
more obvious when people involved are of different sex. Initially, they may try
to go out of the way and showcase their best behaviors. However, over time as
they get more complacent with each other, their mind starts exploring and
People feel the need of
sometime for themselves referred to as ‘Me Time’. They feel the urge to relax
and unwind. It is completely normal, in fact essential to relax too. Now how
one does it or what relaxes a person completely differ from person to person;
especially with people of different sex. For example, a woman might find
activity like shopping relaxing and soothing; whereas a man might feel it
stressful and enjoy some other activity like hanging around with his friends
over a drink.
Whatever the activity,
the ‘Me Time’ will only add freshness to the relationship and strengthen it.
This must be understood as paramount to a healthy relationship.
The real problem is when
the ‘Me Time’ of both the people overlap with each other. They fail to realize
that this time they are allowing for each other ensures things between them
lively forever. Some people may not understand this simple concept and hence
fail to understand the need for it. The reasons could be insecurity, jealousy,
possessiveness, selfishness etc. Whatever the reason may be these overlapping
space issues will only strain a relationship and be detrimental to it.
Some people can indulge
in these overlapping space issues knowingly, and some may do it with the lack of
knowledge of it. A few pointers to deal with such situations are:
• Open communication: This is the first basic step that needs
to be followed. In many situations, it is a one stop solution that addresses
• Me Time: Discussing the concept of ‘Me Time’ and explaining
the need for it for both. Agreeing on a schedule.
• Adhering to the schedule: Adhering to the mutually agreed
schedule and respecting the other person’s ‘Me Time’ space.
• Honesty Factor: People usually maintain secrecy and indulge
in their own space. It defeats the very purpose. It harbors suspicion and
thereby leads to lying. Lies compound lies. If you don’t lie you don’t have to
remember a thing.
The basics of any
relationship need to be love, trust and respect for each other. Any element
lacking will get the entire thing done.
Sometimes we need to
train our mind in order to accept certain things and improvise accordingly. We
need to get the mind thinking that this accepting and respecting of each
other’s space is not because we want to escape from each other. It is only for
refreshing the lovely relationship from time to time. In general terms it is
called the Placebo effect.
A placebo is anything
that seems to be a "real" medical treatment -- but isn't. It could be
a pill, a shot, or some other type of "fake" treatment. One of its
uses is to get the mind thinking that it is getting the real medicine and
strengthen it to recover. Placebos can have an effect on conditions such as
depression, pain, sleep disorders etc. (Information sourced from internet}
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