Title tells it all; yes it’s not for faint hearts. It’s not suggested for people who succumb to pressure. Also, it is not for people who are accustomed to the usual way of functioning. It is a challenge; it will define, determine you and will distinguish you from others. It is as rightly mentioned a defining factor, as it will test your limits. Let me not keep you guessing further, all I am suggesting is that you put an end to the cascading effect of an unpleasant meeting or a distressing confrontation at the beginning of your day.
Well we are all aware of how our day is going to be, should it start off with an annoying beginning. We all know how we feel if we have a quick disagreement at home, a meeting with the boss that has not gone well or may be an argument at the grocery store on our way to work. We tend to continue on these thoughts within the work place too. It may be because our mind is still processing the situation, which we were a little while ago and is still in defensive mode. It is preparing us to build up a defensive platform, prepping up for a similar situation well in advance. A moment ago, we were eager to win or so ashamed to lose due to numerous reasons, such as shortage of time or probably it was not an appropriate reaction at that point of time. Our brain constantly recaps the entire situation over and over again. Whatever be the case, it would be just right if our mind lets go off that response and allows us continue with our normal self. Instead, we dwell on the issue, tend to carry on that reflection and vent out our reaction on each and everything that follows further.
Well let’s just give it a thought, is it fair that we try and cascade our rough experiences and anger to influence the pleasant things in store for us. Even otherwise, how can we justify carrying on our impressions of a particular situation and let that disturb a complete different situation all together. Hence the beautiful quote:
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
― Gautama Buddha.
― Gautama Buddha.
Following pointers could help us quickly recover and set advancement for things to follow:
· Considering the mishap that occurred was one isolated thing, that has gone wrong in varied things in day to day life.
· Diffusing the resultant anger, frustration and absolutely avoiding the cascading effects on people we meet further.
· Thinking the situation with a cool head as to what exactly went wrong and what triggered the injury and consequent aggression.
· Finally, re evaluating that how such reactions can spoil relationships, disturb other things so easily, that was established with a great effort.
It requires great courage to let go off the thought of a failure at a particular situation. It requires even more mettle, not to let it interfere with the subsequent events and mess up the things further. Good leaders are brave hearts, who absorb the distraction and diffuse the situation; and obviously not let the affects compound.