Yes in a situation do we
understand enough? And most importantly is our understanding right? There is a
huge difference between both as we will discuss further in this post. This
aspect does have a great impact in our day to day situations and without any
doubt is imperative in our toughest situations with people. I cannot emphasize
enough on this ‘Deal maker or breaker’ ability. We often encounter simple
problems escalate to a mess, as either due to a lack of understanding or failure
in understand it right. Either ways it spells disaster in relationships with
people when handled incorrectly.
Just the other day, I was facing
a difficult situation with a person. We had to arrive at a resolution for this
ongoing issue. I just did not know how to come out of the situation. The other
person’s opinion and solution seemed so unfair. I did not understand why his
decision in this situation was so different from an exact similar situation that he
was involved in the past. I was getting extremely frustrated as to why the other
person is so unreasonable. The situation was so intense probably one of the
biggest turmoil of my life, involving sensitive decision making. I wanted to be
doubly sure on my decision hence I thought would discuss this with my friend
(sort of taking a second opinion).
I discussed this with a nice
friend of mine explaining him the facts of the situation, references of the
other person’s judgment in a similar situation in the past and his total
unreasonable behavior in the current situation. I narrated the entire episode
to my friend and asked him for his opinion and support in arriving at a fair
resolution to this issue. Following are the pointers that he suggested in
resolving complicated issues, especially when things are sensitive.
·
We need to understand the
basic thing that when the other person is at loggerheads and arguing in a
situation they feel they are right in their thinking and have their own reasons in thinking so; irrespective of how you or
others feel.
– Reason being they lack the general understanding, or could be under
wrong influence of others, or are obsessed with their thought and hence simply
not willing to understand.
·
When discussing a particular
situation we should not refer to any past experiences involving either person;
(however similar situation it may seem).
– Reason being both parties would stress upon their favorable outcome of
the past situation and imply it on the current situation; an aspect which will not be
acceptable to the other person.
·
While discussing in a
situation we always need to leave the emotional baggage out and be as practical
as possible (I am aware that this is most difficult part in relationships as our
emotions bound to jump in at all times).
– Reason being our emotions act as a catalyst and quickly escalate a
problem into a mess. We are bound to take fair and strong decisions only if
take care of this aspect.
For further impacts of
emotions such as anger, frustration and hate please refer to my previous post:
I will add to the above, sensitive discussions like these are best resolved on an open, face to face conversation rather than over the phone. These one to one conversations done in person tend to be more fruitful and binding rather than other means of communication.
Normally we tend to resolve most of the situations by ourselves; even complicated and sensitive ones. There is no harm in taking a second opinion from a trusted friend or an expert. Things would be much simpler if we take good advice from friends and well wishers; especially when we are unsure or have a slightest doubt. I am glad that I approached a right person for advice. I really appreciate my friend’s maturity of thinking. His suggestion to approach an issue devoid of emotions has seen me out of what otherwise was a really complicated situation.
Normally we tend to resolve most of the situations by ourselves; even complicated and sensitive ones. There is no harm in taking a second opinion from a trusted friend or an expert. Things would be much simpler if we take good advice from friends and well wishers; especially when we are unsure or have a slightest doubt. I am glad that I approached a right person for advice. I really appreciate my friend’s maturity of thinking. His suggestion to approach an issue devoid of emotions has seen me out of what otherwise was a really complicated situation.
The learning out of this
entire episode will emerge as an important experience in life and guide us take
“Quality Decisions” whenever and wherever similar situations arise.
Thanks
a lot! I really appreciate your time reading this post. I hope you enjoy
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