People have a network of relationships both in their professional and personal life. It is a very big and integral part of life itself. Most of these relationships are results of the choices that they make in life. The choices made are based on that person’s feelings, observations, likes and dislikes, compatibility etc.
The relationships thus
made are sometimes thriving and at times challenging. In the worst cases, it can
turn into an abusive relationship. The reasons it turns abusive can be varied, and
assorted too. It reaches an extent that you can no longer continue the
relationship even for a day; yet due to some reasons or pressures you are
forced to survive through it. It feels like leading a miserable life every day.
People sometimes struggle
in their relationships. Even when there are numerous reasons to give up, they
cling to that one reason not to. In most cases it is a simple lack of
understanding of each other, incompatibility, unwillingness, ego etc.
The transformation in a
relationship from a challenging one to an abusive one does not happen all of a
sudden. Only in rare cases it happens suddenly, for example due to an
unacceptable incident etc.
We cannot control the
things life does to us, they are done even before we know it, and once they are
done it makes us do other things. The idea is to hope for the best but prepare
for the worst.
However, it is paramount
to identify the changes in the behavior and act swiftly to control the damage. The
following are few pointers that will help see through the rough patches:
· The ability to see the best in people even when they don’t deserve it.
· Trusting and believing in people motivates them to want to make adaptations.
· Taking timely bold decisions is sometimes necessary in worst cases.
Understanding that procrastination
will only delay the inevitable outcome.
Needless to mention, these steps should be considered only after exhausting the preliminary efforts
of having open communication, taking counselling and putting multiple efforts
to address the situation.
One must understand that
relationships are formed due to our own choices and they last due to our own part
of conducting affairs too. In short, it is a reflection of ourselves. Hence, the
reason relationship between two people failing or flourishing is a direct result
of shortcomings or capability of both.
Wishing all my readers a happy and fulfilling relationship!
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