Expectation is a strong sense of belief that something will happen for sure. It is bound to happen between two people associated for a while. It is a formal occurrence at work and tends to be a more casual thing in personal relationships. Irrespective of whether it is at work or in personal life, it can at times catch us off guard. It can at times be difficult to manage.
Expectations of a person
towards us don’t happen overnight. It is built overtime. The reason
expectations of a person towards us grow is primarily because of our own self.
The factors that depend are our attitude, capability, experience, how important
the other person is to us etc.
Expectations are sort of
an undiscussed pact between two people and come with their own pros and cons.
Pros indicate trust, confidence and hope the other people have in us.
The entire problem is
when expectations are not managed properly and start showing the cons. It could
be various reasons that we let people build expectations on us. A few examples
are that we let people depend on us more than required, at times we allow
people to take us for granted, and the way we act differently with two
different people in the same situation. We may act so because of some
exceptions, but it is not perceived so by the other person. The other person
will mostly form the opinion that we are acting indifferently.
A few pointers to manage
the expectations in a right way from the beginning are as follows:
• Open and honest
conversations: This is the most important aspect needed that we be open and
honest in our conversations with people. It is always better to undersell and
deliver better than to oversell and fail.
• Explaining the
exceptions clearly: Whenever we go out of the way and do something for someone,
it should be explained clearly as it is a one-time event. Similarly, clarity in
communicating what we can do, we will do, and what we will never do is
• Acting differently with
two different people for the same situation: First of all, we need to question
ourselves why are we choosing to do it? Is there a good reason for doing so? If
the reason is a good enough one, communicate it clearly to the person in
In worst case scenarios,
expectations gone wrong will create havoc and destroy relationships if not acted
in time. Managing expectations is a delicate process and will need care.
Similarly, when you have an expectation from the other person too the
above-mentioned points must be kept in mind. Knowledge and experience of these
aspects will help us avoid facing unreasonable expectations for ourselves and
have reasonable expectations with others. Positive expectations create thriving
and long-lasting relationships. I wish my readers more such rewarding
experiences in their life.
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