A major part of our lives is the connections
and relationships that we form, both in our professional and personal
environments. The changes that happen evolutionary and revolutionary tend to
have a direct impact on it. In this post, we will discuss the impact of these
changes on the relationship in detail.
We will first try to understand how
relationships are formed. We all know that when in relation we try to impress,
seek attention, and sometimes give a lot of attention to the person we want to
build a relationship with. What you focus on in your mind occupies a larger
space in your heart. We have all been there. We tend to do our best in this
phase and give out the best picture of ourselves, going out of our way to
impress, which may not always be possible. It is important to understand that
this period is not permanent.
In many cases, the attention giving and
attention seeking, if gone wrong, will have detrimental consequences such as
being taken for granted, being ignored, and being taken undue advantage of. In
such cases, there will be visible changes that need to be identified before it
is too late.
Let’s now understand the types of changes, the
causes of them, and the impact it has on the relationship.
Evolutionary change in relationships refers to
a gradual development between two people. It’s a natural process built over
time through daily interactions, mutual understanding, and involving small
adjustments, compromises, etc. Examples of it are: people in a new
relationship, adjusting to roles after marriage. The result is better
relationships provided when both partners are committed and when there is
mutual patience and trust.
Revolutionary change in relationships refers
to a drastic transformation, a sudden change that impacts the relationship
dynamics. It will be a result of a major event, which is often unexpected. It
happens when the trust is broken or core values clash. Examples of it are: a
sudden breakup or divorce, an abrupt change in the direction of the
relationship.
The following pointers will be helpful in
establishing good relationships, identifying changes, evaluating, and taking
necessary actions well in advance:
· Open and honest
communication at all times is the key.
· Acknowledging,
appreciating, and respecting boundaries is essential.
· Differences in opinions
are natural; breach of trust and commitment is not.
· Small compromises and
adjustments are common and necessary too, as long as it doesn’t override the core
values of the relationship.
· A strenuous and abusive
relationship is a clear-cut red flag; moving out of it is a better option than
bearing it with a desperate hope.
A good relationship is never a favor or, worse still, a
compromise. It is important that the partners work on the strengths of each
other rather than bear with each other due to some stigma. Understanding the
fundamental requirements of a great relationship is critical, and
unfortunately, there is no other way around it.
Wishing my readers a life filled with love, trust, and a beautiful relationship that brings you peace and happiness.
For a
basic requirements of a great relationship, please refer to my previous post,
http://www.peoplemanagement.in/2023/03/relationships-flourishing-with-love.html
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